I have struggled with having confidence my whole life, but as I’ve gotten older, it has become easier and easier to accept myself as I am. As a young woman, there are so many beauty standards that have been thrust upon me that it is incredibly difficult not to feel like anything out of the so-called “norm” is a flaw. But I’m here to tell you that is simply not true; our differences are what make us unique! However, I also know that it’s really hard to rewire your brain into loving yourself, when all you’ve been doing for the last however many years is point out everything that is wrong with you, so this post is going to show you where to start when it comes to loving yourself for who you are.
Compliment yourself in the mirror.
Number one rule! No more bashing yourself when you look in the mirror. If it’s not nice, don’t say it! Don’t even think it! Instead, find what you like on yourself and compliment it! “Wow, my hair looks good today” or “Oh my gosh, that freckle below my eye is so cute!”. This is going to start to change your energy when you think about how you look, and give a more positive feeling when you think about your appearance. It also just feels good to compliment yourself.
Be naked. As frequently as possible.
This one is really hard for me, because I struggle more with loving my body than I do with loving my face. I can’t help but notice the cellulite on my thighs or the way my belly sticks out more after I’ve eaten. But! Being naked helps, because it normalizes those things in my head. I don’t know why, but if I’m constantly looking at them, it makes them kind of disappear. I guess I just get used to them and they aren’t such a big deal after that!
Wear what makes you feel good.
Don’t let fear keep you from wearing what you want. I used to be so scared to wear tank tops because of my arms, but when I stopped letting that fear take over and I just wore what I wanted, I started to feel a lot better about my appearance. The thing with wearing what you want is that as long as you have confidence in what you’re wearing, people won’t think twice about it. It’s when you look uncomfortable that people will start to notice. So! Wear the clothes that make you feel good, and don’t worry about what everyone else thinks.
Stop worrying about what people think.
This one ties into my last rule, but it goes far beyond clothing. DON’T WORRY ABOUT WHAT ANYONE ELSE THINKS OF YOU. You are the only one that needs to be happy with yourself, because you are the one that must live with yourself. You are not living for anyone else but you, which means you need to have a lifestyle that you are happy with, no matter what anyone else has to say about it.
Start a gratitude journal.
I just started doing this recently, but it has helped so much! I write down 5 or 10 things I’m grateful for every morning, and it helps me to focus on all the good things in my life. It really helps put my mind into a positive zone for the day, and it helps me focus on the bigger picture. Like yeah, maybe I have a giant pimple on my forehead, but I’m here and I’m healthy and I’m living, so maybe that pimple doesn’t matter all that much.
If you’re not happy with something, CHANGE IT.
THIS IS SO IMPORTANT. You have the power to change ANYTHING in your life. If you are not happy with your job, go get a new one. If you don’t like your hairstyle, then change it to something you do like. Don’t make excuses for not doing things anymore. You have the ability to do anything if you put your mind to it. You are never stuck with anything.
Follow only people that make you feel good.
Don’t follow people that make you feel bad about yourself. Follow people with a positive message that are encouraging you to be the best person you can be, not people that are just trying to make themselves look good. These accounts don’t serve any benefit to you because they just bring out bad emotions, and they make you want to change yourself. Follow people that keep it real and genuinely want to help bring out the best you possible.
Cut out toxic people in your life.
No more toxic friendships. If you’re friends are not encouraging, positive influences, then cut them out. If you have family members who are constantly criticizing your decisions and pointing out your flaws, then spend as little time with them as possible. These people are not helping you succeed in life, they are just holding you back. You need to surround yourself with people that genuinely want what is best for you and will help you reach your goals. It’s not only going to help your confidence, because you’ll feel better about every decision you make, but it’s just going to overall make you a happier person by being around people you actually enjoy being around. Everyone you are around has an energy to them, and if it’s a negative energy, you are going to absorb some of it. You want to keep that from happening as much as possible, because you want to be the happiest person you can be. If you’re always around unhappy people, then it’s going to be that much harder for you to be happy.
Okay guys! That’s all for this post. I want you to know that confidence is not just about being okay with your physical appearance, but also being okay with who you are on the inside. That’s why a lot of these tips are geared toward your mental health rather than being okay with yourself physically. Both of these things play a role in your confidence, but confidence starts from within. You have to heal yourself internally first, and the love for your appearance will follow after that. If you feel like you are gross on the inside, it’s going to be impossible to feel good about the outside.
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